The parents value the eldest son , but more value the youngest son , value the man , but do not look down on the woman , son or daughter - in - law probably becomes the head of a family in a united family 在满族家庭中,妻子常常居于主导地位,父母重长更重少,重男不轻女,儿子或儿媳也会成为父子联合家庭里的一家之长。